I wonder how beautiful the life was back in the days of the childhood of our great, great, great, grandparents when most people were involved in simple businesses like farming, sheep rearing, weaving clothes, making shoes, milking cows etc. Those stress-free days when the father was the sole earner of the family and the mother, being the home maker, used to care for all the things at home. Life was calm and stable then, perhaps.
Knock! Knock! Wake up and welcome back to reality. We are the generation ‘X’, residing in the world of evaluation, opposition, and in a struggle for existence. With the ever-mounting costs and stationary salaries, it’s next to impossible to live a calm and peaceful life. Both partners in a home need to work and to earn a comfortable life for themselves and their families.
However, recent surveys have revealed the bitter truth of our so called ‘fast-paced-corporate lives’. They suggest that the interference of professional life into our personal lives, was one of the top-most reasons for more than half of the short lived marriages and couple separations. The explanations can be any, from superiority complexes to jealousy, work stress or lack of mutual respect for one’s another’s jobs, or simply the inability to handle each other’s successes and failures.
It’s sad to know that the vows taken for a lifetime turn so short, dissolved in the chaos of courtrooms with separations and divorces. Jobs and colleagues take the place of the partner, children and families. For sure jobs are precious, but certainly not at the cost of losing our loved ones. So if you are one of those aspiring, job conscious couples, you ought to keep a check over the following three mantras to uphold the ultimate stability between your personal and professional world- especially when you don’t wish for either world to shatter!
• Don’t bring the office home
This is the first and most important rule. Bringing office work like a client’s call, follow-up emails or presentations is where it all starts. You might have an important presentation or meeting at the work place and be stressed with the load, but on the other hand your partner might be in a situation where she needs to spend time with you. Moreover it’s your family time and you aren’t getting paid for it. Instead, you can spend golden moments helping your partner or offering your assistance to your children with their homework, tiding up the house or simply watching a family movie together. This helps in strengthening the bond between couples, assuring your partner her importance in your life, plus refreshing you for the meeting the next day. Unless it is really important, bringing work home is a big “no”.
• Work is Work
No matter if it is big or small. You might be the CEO of your company, know the bigger names in your department, holding international brand meetings, be the Over Commander of hundreds of employees etc. Then, on the other hand, your partner can be just a basic administrator at their company, doing odd clerical jobs. It is very important to make sure that you respect them for what they does as what might be a random job for you means the world for them. Never forget that you also started at some lower level before reaching your present ‘highly impressive job profile’.
• Letting your partner step in your work shoe
Yes, I did advise not to share professional information or bring work home. However, when you are invited to a professional party or celebration, it is more of an opportunity for colleagues to know each other on personal levels. Taking your partner or children along portray a clearer picture of ‘you’ in person to your colleagues and also boosts your partner’s faith in you. It makes them feel special and secure. What works as a cherry on top is that the introduction of your job environment and colleagues to your partner helps her to recognize the stress and pressure you feel at work. It increases the score of your mutual understanding. Stepping in your shoe helps them realize your efforts and appreciate your hard work.
In a nutshell, marriages and relationships are “made in heaven” but are “preserved on earth.” Mutual respect, understanding, and appreciation are the foundations of long relationships.