Threesomes? Why Girls Do or Do Not

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One of the biggest things that differ between men and women in the bedroom is a topic that comes up at least once (more if the man is persistent and quite honestly, dumb) is a threesome. I have found that every person I’ve been with has at least run the idea by me in the hopes that I would be the type to be into it.

Unfortunately for them, I’m not. And I have my own reasons for this just as many girls who are into it have their reasons as well. It really just boils down to personal preference and whether or not someone is comfortable sharing their man.

The truth is that there’s a lot that goes into deciding whether or not a threesome is for you. Some girls have no issues with it while others think it means they’re inadequate and can’t please their man so he has to find another way to get off.

Even though girls may have different reasons why they do or don’t want to have a threesome, the underlying reasons are generally the same for everyone and I’m here to tell you why your girl does or doesn’t want to have a threesome.

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If, whenever you bring up the topic of a threesome, you’re met with a short “no”, “absolutely not”, or “you’re crazy”, these reasons might be why she prefers to keep things just between the two of you.

She Feels Inadequate

The main reason women aren’t super thrilled to invite a stranger into their sexcapades is that they just feel inadequate. They feel like if you’re looking to add someone else into the mix that they aren’t pleasing you enough. For some girls it really hits a nerve when their man says they want someone else to join. It is definitely a contributing factor when it comes to denying adding in another person.

She’s Not into Girls

I’m assuming if you’re thinking threesome you’re thinking 2 girls and yourself. And for some girls, they just aren’t into seeing another girls naked and having to work with them in bed. It could be a turn off for them completely. I mean, think about it. Would you be down for having another guy hop in when you and your girl are having a good time? Probably not.

She’s Jealous

Threesomes in real life aren’t like they are in porn. Usually, someone is left out while the other two are getting it on and your girl will probably be really jealous if she’s not the one you’re pleasing at the moment. It’s not easy for a woman to watch her man have sex with someone else right in front of her even if it is a “threesome”.

She’s Afraid of What it Might Do to Your Relationship

Some couples can have a threesome and it can have literally no effect on their relationship. However, if your girl is refusing, it might be because she doesn’t want to risk it making your relationship weird or awkward in any way. Adding another person to your sexy time can change the way you see each other and she might not want to change things because she’s happy with how things are.

On another side of changing the relationship, she might be worried that by letting you have sex with someone when she is there might make you think it’s okay for you to be a little less than faithful to just her during times when she isn’t there.

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If your girl is completely down to sharing the sheets with someone new, this is probably why she’s so gung ho to get freaky with a new person.

She Wants to Spice Things Up

If she’s down for having someone else join in on the fun, she might want to spice things up just as much as you do. Sex with the same person can get boring every now and then and by adding someone else it can add that excitement that has seemed to dwindle. She might recognize that and be totally down to get both your engines revved up again.

She’s Trusts You Completely

Trust is a huge part of having a threesome. If she’s down for it, then she obviously really trusts you and knows you’ll remain faithful even if you two occasionally decide to add in another person to your bedroom activities every now and then. You know your girl really trusts you when she is all for a threesome.

She Values Your Happiness in the Sack

Even if she has reservations about having a threesome and still says yes anyways, then she really cares about making sure you’re satisfied in bed. She realizes that she might not be 100% of what you want 100% of the time and is all for putting someone else in place to help make sure you’re left feeling good and satisfied at the end of the day. She knows that a happy sex life also translates to a happy relationship and wants nothing more than to make sure you’re happy.

She Wants to Do it

Sometimes there’s no bigger meaning for your girlfriend being okay with having a threesome. Hell, maybe she wants to have one too. She could be really into having another set of hands on her and you in the bedroom and it could just make her feel happier in bed, too.

 

The bottom line is that whether or not she is okay with having a threesome, each person has their own reasons and you should just take her at her word for it. A little tip I’ll give you guys in order to avoid fights and drama: if she says no, it means no.

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