Getting rejected at a bar or club happens to every guy in the world, seriously, every single guy. It happened to Brad Pitt, George Clooney, Ben Affleck and it’s going to happen to you too. It’s inevitable so get used to the idea and brace yourself. It’s like a rite of passage towards becoming a full-fledged man. You can’t enter the brotherhood until it happens.
What really defines you as a man is how you handle it.
Obviously, you’re going to be a little disappointed, who wouldn’t? Besides not getting the girl it’s a bit of a blow to the ego. The key is to not get visibly upset. I mean, what the hell are people going to think if you’re walking around a bar full of women looking like a sad sack? That’s just depressing and nobody likes a sad sack. I’ve even seen guys flip out on the chick, yelling and screaming. He’s not yelling because she rejected him but because she was likely flippant and dismissive, responding in a rude way instead of being nice about it.
Even still, that’s not a good look for you.
How will you look screaming at a girl who’s not interested in you, even if she was terribly rude in her rejection? Don’t argue with fools because people from a distance can’t tell who is who. If you approach a girl with a compliment or offer to buy her a drink and she rejects you, even if she is rude to you, just brush it off. The key is to brush it off and mean it, to look like you don’t have a care in the world. My advice is to have a few one-liners ready to go. Look at her and say, “Well that didn’t go as planned” or even a playful, “Your loss”. It shows that chick, all the people within earshot, and most importantly yourself that your whole night isn’t going to be ruined because one girl turned you down.
Trust me when I say it’s not the end of the world, it’s not even the end of the night and there are a million other girls out there who are ready to talk to you with a big smile on their face. Handle it like a gentleman, take it in stride, and get back on the horse.
Bigger and better things are waiting.